badmood

bile ak dengar sore ko, ak heppy sesangat.. tapi blew ko ckp ko 'xde mood', hurm.. ak xtaw lhaa cakap cm ne ag, last2 call yg bermakne sangat wat ak just ended gtu jep..oke, kdg2 ak nangis n kadang2 ak pkir pe function ak wat ko ek.. ko na taw x, time ak xde mood ak mesti nak cari ko, sbb pe?? sbb ko je yg leh ilang an xde mood ak nie.. ko segale2 wat ak taw x.. 
kadang2 uw ak pkir, disebabkan ko tgh tdo n ak call dh bleh wt ko ilang mood.. cm uw jgak blew ko tgah penat, msti ak kne mrh nan ko pnye an... 
ko na taw x, time ak gah tdo , even kul 2 3 pagi pon, even ak dh tdo lene ke, blew nset ak bnyi ke n tertere pkataan 'BIE' at nset ak, ko na taw pe ak ase , badmood cm ko.. sumpah , xlangsung... ak tersenyum gler2 taw x, n ak cube sdaya upaye cover sore ak yg bwu bgun nie, sbb ak xnk ko taw yg ak dh tdo sbb msti ko suh ak tdo blikk.. ak xnak aw..,ak na cakap gan ko b..
kadang2 uw ak pkir ak mmg xperfect an idop ko ag cm ko ckap msew kite knl2 dluw,erm 

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      Nurazua Natasya Othman

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      Daniel Aptb

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      • yg awk xkn kecewakan sy
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      • kita bleh berdoa
      • awk berdoa agar x kecewakan sy
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      Nurazua Natasya Othman

      • ermm
      • awk nii\
      • awk trlu ykin sgt gan sy aw
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      Daniel Aptb

      • yup
      • sy percayakan awk
      • sy tau awk baik
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      Nurazua Natasya Othman

      • awk..
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      Daniel Aptb

      • sy
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      • tp sy percayakan awk
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      Nurazua Natasya Othman

      • awkk nii
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      Daniel Aptb

      • awk
      • percaya
      • yg sy boleh wat awk bahagia
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      Nurazua Natasya Othman

      • mmg sy cye awk leyh bhia kn sy
      • sy taw sy ni xlyh bhgia kn awk
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      Daniel Aptb

      • awk
      • yakin dengan diri sendiri
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      • awk yaki awk leh bahagiakan sy

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      Nurazua Natasya Othman

      • sy xjamin awk
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      July 27

      Daniel Aptb

      • awk
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      July 27

      Nurazua Natasya Othman

      • yup
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      July 27

      Daniel Aptb

      • sy yakin sngat2 awk leh bahagiakan sy
      • sy tau
      • sy amat pasti
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      Nurazua Natasya Othman

      • jgn trllu yin
      • *ykin
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      Daniel Aptb

      • awk bleh yakin sy
      • xkn sy x leh yakin ngan awk

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      Daniel Aptb

      • dalam dunia nie
      • sy xperlu perfect
      • asalkan boleh perfect kan satu sama lain
      • sedangkan sy sendiri pown x perfect
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      erm,, tapi ak xmampu perfect an ko ag... smpai skrang pe2 yg ak wat mesti ak ase ko xbhgia.. ak na wat ko bhgia b, tpi ntah lha..npe ak juz gnggu ko tdo je wt ko badmood dh... erm, npe ek???

      
      

      ak sakit ag, sampai skrang ak sakit.. ak call ko coz nak dpt an smgt dri ko,tpi xde mood lak ko.,, huwmm... biar je lhaa an ak sakit cm nie, mati uwn ak redha kott...

      ko pnh ckp at ak jgn call ary2, t xde topik na ckap.. tapi ak xleyh b.. sbb pe?? 1 ary ak mesti naa dgr sore ko... huwmm,,. xpe lhaa an..erm, ak taw fb kite uw uwn daniel tasya uw pon ko dh xcare kn, ko dh xupload pic2 kite, pic ko... ak je beria care fb kite nie.. yelaa kn .. ko uw sokmo bz 24 jam... kn...

      
      

      ak jeles sgt blew bcew mcj ko nan tikah,,..mse ko gan tikah pon, sokmo ko on9 sbb na chat an dye.. ak xde pon cm uw.. :) ko bleh ubah pangai ko demi dye., kowang sllu gak bermecej,, tapi ak xpenah ase semua.. ak redha je.. ble mbe2 ak tnye xmcj ke nan ko..ak cbe cover pasaan, ak bgi jwpn na sdap kn aty je gan jwb mcej sokmo ni cm bdk2 je,, call lhaa bwu khelass, tapi padahal ak trgin gak na ase mcj sokmo cm mbe2 gok yg sokmo mcj nan boyfie diowang...tapi xpe ar..setakat ni kite mcej bwu 105 kali b. pcaye x.. lam mse na 3 bulan,just 105 mcej je kite pnah...dh lhaa., ak xtaw cm ne na ilang an pkir pasal nie..

      
      

      ak jeles gan tikah.. ak ase cm tikah dlu cm lgi best idop gan ko.. cm ne ak na jdi cm tika.. ak sokmo wt ko badmood.. kdg2 ak pikir ko bhgia x gan ak sbenar nyekk..

      
      

      2 3 ary ak asyik mmpi an ko nan tieka.. ak xtaw lhaa npew.. ak sokmo mmpi ko mrh2 an ak dpn tika.. pe mkne nyek mmpi nie.. blew ak trbgun n tringat mmpi uw, ak mesti ngis, ak xna ilang ko..,ak na bhgia an ko.. npe nan ak nie..

      
      

      ko nak taw tak smpai skrang ak gah tgu ko ajk ak wc, tapi xde pon smpai skrg.. blew ko nan tika, ko nak je wc nan dye sokmo.. tapi ak, ak msih tgu smpai skrang ko ajk smua uw.. ak na sgt ajk ko wc tapi ak takot ko xnak.. ak xnak ak syokk sendiri lhaa.. ak xna ak je cm over...

      
      

      ak bhgia sgt gan ko even ak always mngis sbb ko.. kedit ak dh xde.. ak mlas na amik taw sal ko lgi wt mse ni.. bia ar ak tumpu pde spm dlu..ak sokmo ngis sbb ko,ak ase cm gagal je nk bhgia an ko, ak xpnh give up kott na bhgia an ko ag.. ak na bhgia an ko lbih cm ex2 ko dlu, tapi ak xtaw ak mmpu ke x.. . even aty ak terlalu rindu at ko, ak cbe kuat hadapi semua nie.. so b, kalo b bace mende nie, cyg mntak maaf .. ni luahan aty cyg.. cyg xkisah b na mrh ke ape.. ni luahan aty cyg.. cyg msih xsihat n cyg perlu an semangat b tapi b lak xde mood.. xpe lhaa cyg xna gnngu b dh.. bia lhaa cyg hadapi mende ni sowg2.. sekli ag ,cyg mntak maaf sesangat k... daa.. love u..

risau same my aboh..

now,kami risau kn aboh.. aboh kat ne ni..kitaowang wisau sgat kt aboh.. ite risau at aboh. mok lagi risau at aboh.. sharian smlm mok try call boh, tapi asyk voice mail je. mok xpenah give up call aboh, sampai abz kedit mok sbb call aboh. mok telalu wisau at aboh..

aboh, aboh cakap aboh nak g temerloh sehari jep.. tpi ni dh 2 ary dh, tapi aboh xbalik2 lagi..aboh lak xdpat nak call.,asyk voice mail jep..nset aboh xde bteri ke,. aboh,sekurang2 nyek call lhaa mok gtaw keadaan aboh uw cm ne,de at ne,, kn lega aty kitaowang at sini.

mok lak sharian smlm xtdo.. na tdo jep, ingat at aboh.. smpai mok xkunci pntu n xkunci manggar sbb harap an aboh blik.. tapi sampai pagi ni aboh xmncul2 jgak.risau tol mok at aboh. aboh, mmbe aboh at office mnggal.tp, owg pjabat xdpt nk call aboh..akhir nyek,diowang call no mok sbb nk taw aboh at ne. lagi lhaa mok try2 call aboh. ite tgok muke nok cam wisau sgt2..mok siap ckap at mokmie,kalo aboh xblik sok, mok na report polis je,, wisau nyekk mok at aboh.. even mok wat2 bz pon,ite taw mok risau at aboh..

aboh,ite..

dushh!de bnyi kete pntu lhaa.. yeayy!!!!! aboh dh blik..lege aty ite.. masuk je umah,ite dh agak.,, mesti kene membebell pnye,,, dgar je lhaa mok membebel k, nzsib badan lhaa..

tu lhaa.. len kali jgan wat owg len risau ag k aboh.. love u othman taib!!!

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HANTU GAMES

aku nak cite lak pasal HANTU GAME..haha.. sape ek HANTU GAME uw? of course lhaa ko b.. bukan HANTU GAME dh ko uw, JEMBALANG GAME dh ak ase.. haha. ko uw 24 jam gan game,game. yelaa kn, smpai game pon ko cakap sedap kn, untung lhaa ko  game..
kadang2 uw ak bosan jugak blew ko asyik gan game jep. tapi ak kene lhaa tmew kn perngai mabuk kepayang ko at game uw.. kadang2 uw ak pon ase terabai gan game.. ak pon minat gak game tapi xde lhaa obses cm ko lha b.. tapi ak xpenah kesah lhaa ko nak minat game ke ape.. tapi2 agak2 lhaa der..huhu.. 

erm , npe lhaa ko minat game lawan2.. kalo ko mnat game mania ke, adventure ke, leyh gakk ak join .. ni men game2 lawan2 , erghh membosankan kott.. normal ke laki yg mnat game nie?? mmg lhaa normal kn.. tapi bagi ak cam xmatured taw x.. ko suke2 je kap ak ni budak2 padahal ko uw lagi lhaa budak2 k coz mnat sgt game ko uw.. then , ko lgi xmatured dri ak lhaa b.. :P.. asyik game je..

org cakap laki ni xde makwe duk sibok cri makwe, blew dh de perghh tros carew ke game jepp.. ak mmg ko obses gan game.., tapi2 sekurang2 nyek ambik lhaa taw jugak pasal ak.. ni asal ak call jep game, call je game.. erm... time blew je ntah ko ngan game ko uw.. time kite bersame ary uw pon, ko masih ag gan game.. ak ni cam tnggul je tgok ko men game,, ok, forget it.. ..yg penting ak heppy lhaa jugak dpt spent time nan ko  an..

oke2 b..ak xkisah lhaa ko nak men game ke ape,,. tapi ko dh over sgt lhaa.. sampai tido pon lmbt, blew tdo lmbt bgon pon lmbt.. kekadang uw makan minum pon xcarew.. badan ko uw dh mcm mayat  idop taw x, leh lgi xmakan..semua nyek sbb ape?? sbb game taw x..ak xtdow sbb nak pastikan ko tdow dlu k.,, tapi ak xleh tido lewat ,t kene marah gan ko lak kn,,,ko uw leh lak sampai xtdo men game uw.. ko dah over sgt taw x.. smpai leh jejas ksahtan ko uw..

ha, ni se ag.. bilew ak call jepp, gah men game, call jep men game.. ak dah bese dah.. blew ak call n ko gah men game , mesti ak gan ko xbyk cakap pnye, yelaa kn, sbok sgt fokus ke game.. kdg2 uw ko kate jgn gnngu ko gah fokus ke game.. erm,, ak nak jugak ckap gan ko even ko sbok duk men game kn.. ak nk ko stop jap men game n fokus jap at ak tapi ko xkan dengar pnye kn.. na wat cm ne.. so,ak redha je lhaa kn,, ak ase nak jugak cakap gan ko,tpi ak kene timew lhaa kalo time ko gah men game..

b, cyg na share sgt minat b gan game uw.. even cyg xminat pon, cyg na jgak taw.. ,sbb uw lhaa mase ary tu  kite bersame kn, ak suke tnye byk soalan at ko pasal game ko men uw, sampai ko xcare at ak n marah ak tnye byk soalan msew uw kn,.. ak cume na taw jep, ak na gak ko share game yg ko men uw gan ak.. mmg lhaa ak xminat game kn.. tapi ak na taw jugak.. tapi ko je xtaw kn...tapi, xpe lhaa .. mybe ko xna gtaw ak sbb kalo ko terang an pon bkn nyek ak paham pon kn.. 

so b ak mmg xpenah nyesal pon dapat pakwe HANTU GAME cam ko uw.. tapi obses ko uw xreti nak kawal taw x.. pkir lhaa jgak keadaan ko, ni sampai xtdo lhaa, mkn pon xcare, .salah care ko uw.. kalo nak men game pon agak2 ler.. ak dah bese blew ko da sbok gan game.. mmmg lha kekadang ak bosan, sedih,geram  blew na borak or spend time gan ko, mesti game pon de jgak.. yelaa kn, ak taw games uw everything wat ko.. pasal ak xpayah care, pasal diri ko uw aw.. jangan abaikan kesihatan ko,, tu jep.. gara2 game jep abis diri ko uw tunggang langgang taw x.. pe2 pon b ak sokong je pe yg ko minat tapi kawal lhaa jugak k..

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Boyfriend Spending Too Much Time On Video Games? Adapt To It and Tell Him to Get A Life

Boyfriend Spending Too Much Time On Video Games? Adapt To It and Tell Him to Get A Life

Everyday, girls face the defeat of having their boyfriends choose video games over them. This I can totally understand this, having a gamer for a boyfriend. To make matters worse, Mass Effect 3 came out, along with MLB 2K12. This has caused some tension in our relationship, but over the time we have been together, I have learned to cope with it and to actually respect it. I have even become somewhat of a gamer myself. With all of this said, there are two choices that girls can make when it comes to their gamer boyfriends; adapt or let the games 
win.

My Boyfriend or Husband is Addicted to Video Games
What Can I Do?

By Dr. Brent Conrad
Clinical Psychologist for TechAddiction.ca

Video Game Addiction in Relationships

If you read the research and media stories on video game addiction, you may believe that it is only something that happens to teenage boys and single men in their twenties. Unfortunately though, many people (from teenagers all the way to those in their 60s) find themselves in relationships with boyfriends or husbands who are addicted to video games.

Of course women can also become addicted to computer games, but the research consistently finds that males tend to be more at risk for video game addiction.

For the partners of people who are obsessed with video games, it feels as if they are being ignored or even abandoned in favor of their boyfriend’s or husband’s latest computer game obsession. 

Is It Worth Getting Upset About?
There are those who argue that if this is your situation you really shouldn’t complain too much about it – after all wouldn’t a drug, alcohol, or gambling addiction be much worse? In fact, even if your husband or boyfriend plays video games too much…at least he is right there at home with you and “not out at a bar somewhere”.

Not very comforting is it?

The fact is, you chose to be in a relationship with this person and he chose to be in it with you. And it is safe to assume that you both made this choice because you wanted to share part of your life with this person. To do so however, requires that you actually spend meaningfultime together (not just “time”).

Meaningful Time Together is the Key

So what is meaningful time? The definition will obviously vary from person to person, but would you agree that this time has to (at the very least) be bothvoluntary and chosen over other options?

For example, let’s assume that the only regular time your boyfriend or husband spends with you is during the commute to work or school and for an hour or so during dinner. Otherwise, when he has the option he spends all of his time at home with his favorite console or computer game. His evenings and weekends are devoted to video games, not you…or anything else.

There is nothing wrong with having some alone time, even when you are in a relationship – in fact it is actually quite healthy. The problem here is not that your boyfriend or husband plays video games – you would likely be just fine with occasional play as a way to distress or relax at the end of the day.

The problem is that when given the option, he appears to be choosing video games over you.  

How Your Boyfriend’s or Husband’s Video Game Addiction Affects You

Needless to say, feeling as though you are less important than a video game character is not what you were looking for when you entered this relationship. When someone is dating or married to a video game addict, it can have quite an impact on their self-esteem and their security in the relationship.

They may feel:

• Unappreciated
• Ignored
• Unimportant
• Disrespected
• Unloved 
• Taken for granted

Given these feelings, it is not surprising that they start to wonder if the person will ever cut back on gaming time, or if not, whether they should remain in the relationship.

How Do You Know if Your Boyfriend or Husband is Addicted to Video Games?

While there is no formal diagnosis of video game addiction, an obsession with video games can definitely have a negative impact on the quality of a relationship. What are the signs that your husband or boyfriend is addicted to video games?

Take our informal quiz to get a sense of whether computer game addiction is a problem in your relationship.

Video Game Addiction Test for Partners

1) My husband or boyfriend is happier when he is playing video games than when he is spending time with other people.
TRUE   FALSE

2) My husband or boyfriend would almost always rather play video games than go out socially.
TRUE  FALSE

3) My husband or boyfriend often plays computer games for hours every day even when other responsibilities are not taken care of (e.g., school, work, kids, household chores, etc.).
TRUE  FALSE

4) My husband or boyfriend spends almost every evening playing video games.
TRUE  FALSE

5) The work or school performance of my husband or boyfriend has suffered as a result of excessive computer gaming.
TRUE  FALSE

6) It is common for my husband or boyfriend to stay up past midnight playing video games – and he is often tired the next day as a consequence.
TRUE  FALSE

7) My husband or boyfriend no longer participates in sports or activities he once enjoyed and now devotes most of his time to video games.
TRUE  FALSE

8) When I ask my husband or boyfriend stop playing and spend time with me (even if he has already been playing for hours) he gets angry or irritable.
TRUE  FALSE

9) Other people have commented that my boyfriend or husband plays video games too much.
TRUE  FALSE

10) My husband or boyfriend often eats meals while playing computer games rather than taking a break to eat.
TRUE  FALSE

11) My husband or boyfriend lies about how much time he spends playing video games.
TRUE  FALSE

12) My husband or boyfriend promises to just spend a few minutes playing computer games, but this often turns into hours.
TRUE  FALSE

How many of the above statements are true for you? Although there is no cut-off indicating that video game addiction is present, obviously the more items that apply to you the greater the likelihood that excessive computer gaming is damaging your relationship.

Advice for Stopping a Partner’s Video Game Addiction

1. Don’t offer to join him.

If you have already looked for advice online on how to deal with a partner’s video game addiction, you may have seen the suggestion to join him in his hobby. That is, take an interest in video games yourself and this way you can spend time with your boyfriend or husband while you both play games together.

Forget it.

Yes, it is true that in some relationships both partners are gamers and enjoy spending time together in this way – it can happen. However, this usually develops naturally from a mutual, pre-existing interest in video games, and not from one partner who is desperately trying to be noticed and valued in the relationship.

There are many problems with this “solution”, the most obvious being that it does not address the issue of choosing video games over your relationship. The person is still defaulting to gaming when given a choice. Simply being allowed to play with him is unlikely to make you feel any more important in the relationship. Saying “If you want to spend time with me no one is stopping you from picking up a controller” still sends the message that video games take priority over the relationship.

Additionally, you may have absolutely no interest in playing these games…and he may actually prefer to keep gaming as “his thing” (which is usually just fine if he still makes plenty of time for you).


2. Don’t call it an “addiction”.

Although excessive computer gaming is often referred to as an “addiction”, it is not an officially recognized mental health diagnosis. The use of the term addiction is mainly used as a simple way to refer to “unhealthy or excessive video gaming habits that significantly interfere with social, relational, educational, occupational, or emotional functioning”. Clearly it is much easier to use the term “video game addiction” than the previous definition!

Given that video game addiction is not a recognized disorder and that using the term will likely only make your boyfriend or husband even more defensive (“It’s not even a real disorder – how can I be addicted?!”), there is little practical use in using the words “addiction” or “addicted”.   

3. Don’t automatically assume that excessive video gaming is a “symptom of a deeper underlying issue”.

Yes, it is true that turning to video games can be a way of dealing with feelings of depression, anxiety, or interpersonal difficulties – this should not be overlooked. However, this is not always the case. Sometimes, video game addiction is simply an unhealthy obsession with games – this is the issue. The person is drawn in by the challenges, strategies, competition, visuals, rewards, and feels a sense of accomplishment when mastering the game (see Why Are Video Games Addictive?).

The problem may not be that he is depressed or socially anxious, but that he has prioritized video games over other activities and has difficulty setting limits on his gameplay.


4. Avoiding or ignoring it won’t make it go away.

If your boyfriend’s or husband’s video game addiction is significantly interfering with the quality of your relationship (you should have a sense of this by taking the quiz above), something needs to be done about it. Too often the partners of video game addicts avoid talking about their concerns because they are afraid that it will make the situation even worse. True, it may cause a temporary increase in the overall stress level in your relationship. However, the purpose of discussing relationship problems (whatever they may be) is to deal with before them become out of control.

Let your partner know:

• that you love him or care about him
• that you are concerned about his video game habits (not “addiction”)
• that you miss spending time with him 
• that you believe it is affecting your relationship
• that spending so much time with video games makes you feel ignored
• that it is very important to you that talk about this and address it as a couple

5. It is OK to offer suggestions.

Hopefully your partner is receptive to the conversation above as initiated by you. If so, you may be wondering “now what?” Obviously the steps that are taken from here will depend on your specific situation. However, it is perfectly reasonable to offer a few tentative ideas for his feedback:

“I care about you and I care about this relationship. But sometimes I feel ignored  when video games take so much of your time. I think that this is affecting our  relationship and I am worried that we may not be spending enough  quality time  together. I know that you like playing these games and I’m not asking you to stop.  But maybe we could agree to cut back to an hour or two per day so that we still have time for each other? This is very important to me. What do you think?”

 

5. Don’t settle for being less important than computer games.

Asking that your boyfriend or husband spend more time with you than with computer games is not unreasonable! Occasionally, couples become so comfortable with each other that they stop putting time and energy into the relationship. They may mistakenly assume that the other person will always be there no matter what.

When someone stops trying and their partner no longer feels special, appreciated, or important, this is the beginning of the end for the relationship. No one is in a relationship to be ignored – you cannot settle for this and do not need to compete with a video game for attention from your boyfriend or husband.

6. If necessary, consider couples therapy or other treatment options.

If your partner is unwilling to discuss or compromise on his gaming habits even after following the advice above, consider couples therapy.

When suggesting this, try to avoid making statements like “We need to go to couples counselling to fix this”. Also, don’t make this suggestion in frustration or anger after a huge argument. Rather, wait until you are feeling close to your partner. Comment on the good day (or afternoon, or morning, etc.) that you have had together and how great it would be to have more times like this. Introduce couples counseling as a way “feel even closer to each other” and as a way to be “stronger as a couple”. That is, focus on the positives that can come from this rather than presenting it as a last attempt to “save” your relationship.

Often, making the decision to try therapy is the largest hurdle to overcome. If this applies to your boyfriend or husband, suggest it as “An experiment - let’s just see what it is like. No commitments. If it is helpful, great! If not, we don’t need to go back. Can we try this?”

If your partner is still unwilling to try couples counselling, consider looking into individual therapy. If he is reluctant, he may be willing to read this downloadable workbook for video or computer game addiction.

If he refuses all of these options and you strongly believe that obsessive computer use is harming your relationship (and how you feel about yourself), you need to seriously evaluate whether you can continue to invest time and energy into it. Talk to friends and / or family about your situation and ask for their advice or feedback. You may also want to book an appointment with a psychologist or therapist for yourself – this can be very helpful for generating ideas, reviewing your options, and deciding how (or if) to proceed with the relationship.

Leaving the Relationship

It is definitely possible to overcome video game addiction, so don’t give up on your partner too easily. But if it is clear that:

1) playing video games is his number one priority
2) you are putting far more effort into the relationship than he is
3) you often feel ignored in favor of gaming
4) you have repeatedly asked him to cut back on his gaming time with no success
5) he is unwilling to talk about this issue
6) he is unwilling to seek help
7) he is not motivated to change

…this may unfortunately mean that leaving the relationship needs to be considered.